The Shadow

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.  ~ Dinah Shore

The age old saying here is opposites attract. In many cases, I feel like this is true. Many people find themselves attracted to their opposites. Today in my psychology class, we discussed this idea of opposites attracting (which we called our "shadow") and examined why this tends to happen. I believe that people are attracted to others who are not exactly like them because the opposite tends to fill a void in someone's life. It is like they are the missing puzzle piece that is needed to make a complete person. The opposite tends to draw out what the person is missing in their life. I believe this is true in every sense. That is why it is often so hard to let go. We don't want to have that void back in our life again. We want to remain happy and want to share our lives with someone else who is not exactly the same as ourselves. This enables us to learn a lot about ourselves in the process. It is sad when we must let the opposite go and it even sadder when we never wanted to but we had to because it was what was right for the other person - our opposite. I guess in the end, we never do let go of our opposite (or puzzle piece), but we learn to live without seeing them all the time or talking to them everyday. One day, the pain of not having our compliment there will hopefully lessen and cause us to be able to finally move on and if not, maybe one day we will be able to be together again. Only time may tell.